Take a deep breath, dig your fingernails into your faith, and tell a friend a personal truth that you've been hiding. You might, for example, regret never having told them about an affair you had when younger; now, you're beginning to see this skeleton-in-your-closet distorts the way you see things. Somehow, this must be shared, with respect for everybody's hidden bruises.

Or perhaps your attempt to control things looks like this: you buy gifts for people, and secretly expect them to owe you affection in return. It might be time to come clean.

You may try to control things by NOT asking a dangerous question. Perhaps you sense that your friend is the one who's haunted by a skeleton, and you'd like to be the agent for their liberation, but want to avoid their truth.

If you're gambling for a new outcome because you respect intimacy and the other person, then you can repeatedly ask that they take your feelings into account if they respond, too.

Letting Go like this is often an epiphany.