Conflict is the heart at movies and plays, and (some feel) relationships themselves. Couples sometimes pick fights just to re‑connect. It may be better than repressed denial, but it’s my sense that the results are not always energizing, and that sometimes there’s a better way to get through the middle (as oppossed to skirting around the edge) of a conflict.
Fight! Fight!
To Do This Week

See if you can view a conflict as a puzzle, an intrigue, an investigation into both your own issue and the issue of the other person. You’ll probably have to prepare ahead of time; in the midst of the conflict, it’s so hard to remember how to shift your angle of view. If you have a simmering conflict, see if you can be curious instead of stirred-up; that way, you can start practicing now.

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